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Compassion for Your Grieving Self & Others

Intellectually knowing about grief might aid the process of healing. Knowledge and awareness can diminish some anxiety.  It can be useful to know something about the process of grief in anticipation of challenges of loss in life ahead.   It provides an understanding that fosters hope that the pain of loss will lead to transformation to a new way of being.  Researcher and author, Bill Bridges (Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes) note that a successful new beginning requires more than simply persevering.  It requires understanding external signs and internal signals that point the way to the future.As friends and family we can’t fix, change or hurry the grieving process. We can accompany, support and sincerely attempt to understand the difficult journey experienced.

As friends and family we can’t fix, change or hurry the grieving process. We can accompany, support and sincerely attempt to understand the difficult journey experienced.Loss, whatever its nature or degree, is impossible to escape in life.  And

Loss, whatever its nature or degree, is impossible to escape in life.  And the loss will most likely bring grief.Grief is a force, a gradual process of helping us accept a devastating loss. It is the way the psyche heals itself.  It is the healing of a wound to the fabric of our being.  It’s an impaired sense of self:  intellect, emotions, physical, social.

Grief is a force, a gradual process of helping us accept a devastating loss. It is the way the psyche heals itself.  It is the healing of a wound to the fabric of our being.  It’s an impaired sense of self:  intellect, emotions, physical, social.It is a

It is common and normal reaction for all of us, yet each person will have his or her own manner of responding.  We are all similar in different ways.Grief plays out over time.  It ebbs and flows at its own rhythm.  Saying goodbye takes time.  Perhaps the most consoling fact is that grief is “

Grief plays out over time.  It ebbs and flows at its own rhythm.  Saying goodbye takes time.  Perhaps the most consoling fact is that grief is “time-limited”.  The time is different for each of us.  It’s possible to survive and also grow through loss.  The impulse to grow is as strong as the impulse to survive.

“If There’s Anything I Can Do…How to Help Someone who has been Bereaved” by Caroline Doughty, White Ladder Press, Britain, 2007 (insight and suggestions for helping widows with young children)

“The Art of Condolence, what to write, what to say, what to do at a time of loss” by Leonard Zunin, MD and Hilary Stanton Zunin, Harper Collins Publishers, 1991.

“Transitions, Making sense of life’s changes” by William Bridges, Lifelong books, 2004.

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