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Grieving is a Fundamental Process of Life

We do not choose it.  It rather chooses us.

It’s not a one-time event.  It’s a road we must travel on.

It doesn’t follow clock time. It adheres to deeper rhythms.

Regrets are common, thought of incompletion and unfinished business, struggles unresolved.

These are illusory, clingy thoughts, but you can’t wrestle them to the ground and stamp them out.

As they emerge, you can see them, and let them go

And do that each time they come back to visit.

Each of us has our light, what makes us loving and loveable. Each of us has our dark places, how we grapple with fear and pain-what makes us unbearable, at times even to ourselves.

Each of us has our dark places, how we grapple with fear and pain-what makes us unbearable, at times even to ourselves. We have our griminess and our glory.

We have our griminess and our glory.  But what are we, really?  We are neither.

But what are we, really?  We are neither.

We are not any of those parts.  We are all of those parts.

So, when you think of the loved one who has passed, embrace the whole person.

Frank Ostaseski of Metta Institute as reported by Barry Boyce, Mindful Magazine, August 2016, pg 10.

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